Can you honestly believe that we are halfway through 2019? Whew, chile, what a year it has been so far. Thank goodness for God’s grace and mercy!
It has been a minute since I’ve blogged about much of anything, I thought that I would take the minute to do a little self-reflection. You’ve heard it here first, accountability, at it’s finest!
You can only grow when you learn to love yourself before anyone, implement time out of your day to self-reflect and redirect your focus. As I look back on where I was in my life this time last year, I am so happy for my evolution as a woman! Please do not get me wrong, this time last year, I was very happy–enjoying my life with family, friends, traveling, cultivating a strong sense of self-love, learning more about myself each and every day.
Fast forward to this day, I am still enjoying my family and friends, living life at the beat of my own drum, growing, and cultivating my future! I’ve made it my mission to be happy and successful, something that is very personal. There is literally nothing anyone can say, nor do that will make me doubt myself, question my morals or values in any aspect. I’ve come too far in life, experienced plenty of lessons in addition to blessings and I have a lot to prove to myself. Each and every day I strive to be my best self that I can be even with the weight of the world on my shoulders, at times. I know where my power and purpose comes from, learning that I am worth so much more and I will not settle for anything less.
At this age in life, as well as my mid-year self-reflection, I’ve learned two most important lessons: 1) When you know yourself, no one can make you question yourself, and 2) set boundaries in your personal life as well as your professional life.
- When you know yourself, no one can make you question yourself! When you love yourself, you’ve done the work to achieve complete happiness and you’re capable of not relying on anyone in life to be happy, you’re at a new level. Spending time alone you learn so much about yourself such as likes, dislikes, insecurities, morals, values, and your mental state. People who are knowledgeable of self-awareness are powerful individuals, they are kind and humble but firm in their beliefs and display confidence. Some confuse this as being prideful or having an ego. Although this may be true, you’ll be able to tell who is a wolf in sheep’s clothing.
- Set boundaries in your personal life as well as your professional life! This one took me some time to figure out but I am proud to say that I have learned my lesson. Allow me to introduce to you to how to establish boundaries in your professional life: “learn to say no, period”. It’s that simple, do not put too much on your plate that you’re not able to complete. Do not burn yourself out because you feel as if everything has to be completed today, you live up to your daily potential but prioritizing things of most importance to least importance can help you so much. Finally, establishing boundaries in your personal life. Again, at the end of the day, you are the only one who is responsible for your well-being. You have to make yourself a priority!! You do not have to apologize for not going against your morals, values, or your gut-feeling just because someone does not agree with your perspective. You do not have to jeopardize your self-worth to appease anyone. If your loved ones or friends can not respect your decision of you turning down the opportunity to hang out, saying no to a phone call that is going to result to your energy being drained, acknowledge your feelings, question you or make you feel bad for anything you do not want to do, redirect your focus! Whether you establish boundaries early or later, you must establish them. Take a few minutes to yourself every day and re-evaluate your boundaries, should you need to. When boundaries are not set, people become too comfortable with disrespecting your time, your energy and the beauty of being around you. Love your self enough to incorporate this lesson within your life.
Again, 2019, thus far, has taught me a lot about self, my purpose, my drive and most importantly, my ability to never underestimate myself. All in all, I will be successful, I will continue to grow and I will continue to love myself.