For every season, there is a fundamental lesson or blessing behind it. Whether it be a lesson that we haven’t quite gain the concept of or whether it be the work that we have diligently conducted within ourselves in order to receive blessings. The fact of the matter is that we are all ‘a work in progress’ and we continuously are striving to be the best versions of ourselves for God, self and those we love.
However, in the same sense of the matter, when you’re on the road to intentionally establishing a foundation, you will have things that are sent to test you! How you respond to those tests will determine the progression of what’s to follow. Thankfully, some of us pass those test and some of us fail those tests but great news, those tests are never sent in the same form. I guess that could be a good thing as well as a bad thing.
The fact of the matter is that our primary job is to make sure we are improving ourselves each and every day, despite some hiccups along the way. For myself, I can say that I can attest to that. Each and every day I strive to be the best version of myself despite what life throws but because I am human sometimes I fail those test and that’s okay. One of the most important lessons that I’ve learned this year is that whether the test comes in experiences, people or job form, I will master the lesson! As a person there are many factors we deal with in life, various backgrounds and etc. however, do not allow that to define you as a person.
For many years I’ve dealt specifically not feeling as if I was adequate enough to move to the next level within my career. Being in my current position at my organization, it seemed as if I had to work twice as hard for two reasons being a woman of color and “to prove myself” to my co-workers, that I am just a valuable as them. Again, it wasn’t until this year that I felt in my spirit that enough was enough, I am just as qualified, if not highly qualified to have the next position or a position elsewhere. Those around may see your potential and your greatness but still have a lot of negative things to say but if you believe that you’re great, qualified and the best, it reflects in your aura. Needless to say, I have major things working in my favor because I received this confidence and changed my mindset.
In terms of people, I have always been one who shy’s away from the spotlight, not speak up for my needs or remain quite to make others in the room fill comfortable. Another important lesson that I learned this year is that you cannot diminish who you are to make others in the room comfortable. What you are asking for, requiring of others is not too much! Those who love you, respect and have the equipment to handle you will be to handle you or meet you where you are at. In platonic friendships as well as romantic relationships this is so important! If you’re constantly telling someone what bothers you, inquiring about having an important healthy conversation or simply trying to implement boundaries and it seems to be too much for a person, don’t back down to make them comfortable. Again, for those who love you, want the best for you, respect you as an individual will not have an issue with doing what you request. I am very aware of compromising BUT with my boundaries and my greatness I will not compromise that! When you learn to respect, love and value yourself, those around you will have no choice but to do the same.
Don’t diminish your greatness because someone isn’t fully equipped to handle it!