5 Ways to live your best life

  1. Know yourself

As cliché as this may sound, knowing thy self is a very important aspect of one’s life. Self-knowledge just does not stop at the basics—one’s likes and dislikes. It’s about knowing who you truly are as a person. Make sure that you seek at least a couple of hours out of the day to get to know yourself. We are human, we change daily and that’s why spending hours at a time a day is so important. The more you know about yourself, the easier it will be to love yourself.

  1. Have no expectations on life

The only way that you’ll be able to enjoy life to the fullest, is by simply not putting expectations on how your life should be. Learn how to go with the flow day by day. I can honestly say, that after 26 years on this earth, I have learned that nothing goes as planned and at this point, I can honestly say I’m okay with that. I cannot get upset, throw temper-tantrums because something does not go my way. At this point of my life, I’ve learned to smile, improvise and make use of my time on this earth.

  1. Practice being grateful

To feel or show an appreciation of kindness, thankful is the definition of grateful. We often times are more susceptible to show an attitude of ungratefulness towards any and everything, depending on our moods. Let’s focus on not getting caught up in our own sense of entitlement. Be sure to always say ‘please’ and ‘thank you’, give compliments freely, do things for others without expecting anything in return. Showing acts of kindness will take you a long way in life and will also make one feel better about themselves.

  1. Acknowledge your past

It’s always easier to practice what you preach. But this nugget has been one that I continuously struggle with each day.

Acknowledge your past, the good-the bad and the ugly! Without acknowledging your past, you carry it over into your present which will hinder your growth and decrease blessings. Learn from your past, heal from your past and be ready to receive all that God has waiting on you. The first initial stage in constructing your best life is to get rid of everything that you no longer want.

  1. Slow down and just enjoy life

We are all guilty of this, we all get caught up in the meaningless hustle and bustle of today’s world. We have reached the point where we are too busy for our families, friends and relationships but we always have time for social media, gossip and work. At the end of the day, we must take the time out of our busy lives to interact with each other for the simple fact, we need to have fun and enjoy life. We need to disconnect from our lives to reconnect with the ones who mean the most to us. Stop trying to capture every minute you spend with someone..to post about it on social media. Enjoy the time that you’re given.

Your life only gets better when you do better. Work on yourself and the rest will surely follow!


Mid Year Self Reflection

Can you honestly believe that we are halfway through 2019? Whew, chile, what a year it has been so far. Thank goodness for God’s grace and mercy!

It has been a minute since I’ve blogged about much of anything, I thought that I would take the minute to do a little self-reflection. You’ve heard it here first, accountability, at it’s finest!

You can only grow when you learn to love yourself before anyone, implement time out of your day to self-reflect and redirect your focus. As I look back on where I was in my life this time last year, I am so happy for my evolution as a woman! Please do not get me wrong, this time last year, I was very happy–enjoying my life with family, friends, traveling, cultivating a strong sense of self-love, learning more about myself each and every day.

Fast forward to this day, I am still enjoying my family and friends, living life at the beat of my own drum, growing, and cultivating my future! I’ve made it my mission to be happy and successful, something that is very personal. There is literally nothing anyone can say, nor do that will make me doubt myself, question my morals or values in any aspect. I’ve come too far in life, experienced plenty of lessons in addition to blessings and I have a lot to prove to myself. Each and every day I strive to be my best self that I can be even with the weight of the world on my shoulders, at times. I know where my power and purpose comes from, learning that I am worth so much more and I will not settle for anything less.

At this age in life, as well as my mid-year self-reflection, I’ve learned two most important lessons: 1) When you know yourself, no one can make you question yourself, and 2) set boundaries in your personal life as well as your professional life.

  1. When you know yourself, no one can make you question yourself! When you love yourself, you’ve done the work to achieve complete happiness and you’re capable of not relying on anyone in life to be happy, you’re at a new level. Spending time alone you learn so much about yourself such as likes, dislikes, insecurities, morals, values, and your mental state. People who are knowledgeable of self-awareness are powerful individuals, they are kind and humble but firm in their beliefs and display confidence. Some confuse this as being prideful or having an ego. Although this may be true, you’ll be able to tell who is a wolf in sheep’s clothing.
  2. Set boundaries in your personal life as well as your professional life! This one took me some time to figure out but I am proud to say that I have learned my lesson. Allow me to introduce to you to how to establish boundaries in your professional life: “learn to say no, period”. It’s that simple, do not put too much on your plate that you’re not able to complete. Do not burn yourself out because you feel as if everything has to be completed today, you live up to your daily potential but prioritizing things of most importance to least importance can help you so much. Finally, establishing boundaries in your personal life. Again, at the end of the day, you are the only one who is responsible for your well-being. You have to make yourself a priority!! You do not have to apologize for not going against your morals, values, or your gut-feeling just because someone does not agree with your perspective. You do not have to jeopardize your self-worth to appease anyone. If your loved ones or friends can not respect your decision of you turning down the opportunity to hang out, saying no to a phone call that is going to result to your energy being drained, acknowledge your feelings, question you or make you feel bad for anything you do not want to do, redirect your focus! Whether you establish boundaries early or later, you must establish them. Take a few minutes to yourself every day and re-evaluate your boundaries, should you need to. When boundaries are not set, people become too comfortable with disrespecting your time, your energy and the beauty of being around you. Love your self enough to incorporate this lesson within your life.

Again, 2019, thus far, has taught me a lot about self, my purpose, my drive and most importantly, my ability to never underestimate myself. All in all, I will be successful, I will continue to grow and I will continue to love myself.

Love at the end of the Rainbow

Like many people, some of you may be thinking to yourself, “Yikes, this one here really needs to speak with a therapist” or the infamous saying that I hear all the time, “Wow, this girl is still dealing with this”. Well the reply is still the same just as it was several years ago, “I love you still, I always have and I always will”, point, blank, period! For those who are familiar with my recent blog posts, I have been transparent about the loss of my early adulthood boyfriend. This man was everything to me, he inspired me, believed in me, and taught me things about myself that I never would have known if I were never to have met him. Most importantly, he loved me for who I was and not what I was or what I could do for him! I say all of that to say this…2

While watching the memorial for Nipsey Hussle, it has really put things into perspective for me such as the love between him and his beautiful girlfriend, Lauren London. I sat at my desk in my office watching the live broadcast on my cell phone I was overwhelmed by emotions. I laughed, cried and smiled during a man’s memorial that I never met. All of his loved ones, friends, and the city of Los Angeles along with fellow artists had nothing but beautiful, kind and positive words to say about Nipsey Hussle. From listening to his mother speak of her son, she dropped gems, not about his life but life in general that will forever stick with me. Hearing his father, as well as his brother, speak about his life was very touching. Really what to know what did it for me? You guessed it! Hearing Lauren London speak about the love of her life, seeing Lauren being that brave to stand in front of thousands of people tell the world about the love she had for this man, allowing those to know how great of man he was not only to her but their family and being able to relate to the pain that Lauren was currently in. Now do not get me wrong, I cannot say that I know how she felt exactly but I can closely relate because in the end, the death of a boyfriend, spouse or life partner is something that will always impact you.

It is crazy that the day of the memorial for Nipsey Hussle, it marked the date in which I met my early adulthood boyfriend, Preston. My feelings had been all over the place that week, that Thursday I was very emotional and I could not process my thoughts for the life of me. One thing that got me through the week and especially that day was plenty of prayers, love from my loved ones but the support of my current boyfriend! Had it not been for listening ears, prayers, talks with God, crying and my supportive boyfriend, I would not have made it. It’s somebody somewhere thinking “So you’re just going to skip over ‘my current boyfriend’ part as if that’s something that you have talked about previously”. Well, you are right, that’s the part that I was getting to…

After having a plethora of time to devote to myself—ensu1ring that I was spiritually, mentally, physically, and emotionally strong, I began to get back in the dating realm, it took several years…whew, chile! Needlessly to say after praying for myself to be the best version I can be as well as for whoever God brought into my life, I prayed for my future partner and for God to remove relationships that were not purposeful! Patiently waiting and believing in God’s plan for my life, knowing my worth and again, waiting patiently, I received God’s blessing for my life. Despite having doubts, feeling that I was not worthy of another love, or having reservations about a relationship with anyone else, I had to open my heart and learn from my past in order to correct my behavior for the present and the future.

Till this day, obviously, I still have those rough moments but yet I have to remind myself that if I continue to pray, I should not worry. The same way God provided some of the most precious moments with an amazing man, he will ensure that I have other precious moments to look forward to with another amazing man. No one could ever and will never take the place in which Preston held in my life! And because of that, I am forever grateful for his presence, the lessons I learned, the happiness and the sadness with that part of my life.

I am always reminded that there is love at the end of the rainbow!

The Lessons and Blessings of 2018

Truly, what a year 2018 has been! Personally speaking, I have lived my best life due to allowing myself to live outside of my comfort zone. At the end of each year, I allow myself time to sit down to do some self-reflecting on my life. When re-evaluating my life I was able to highlight the areas in which I saw tremendous growth for me as a person, such as my ability to evaluate people in my life–either you’re uplifting, supporting and motivating me; Seeking new hobbies–stimulating my mind and locating new/hidden talents; Spending money on experiences and not things; lastly, Having the ability to forgive and love freely. For those who know me, can attest to the fact that I am a true ‘stick to the plans type of gal’ and if things go array then, to me, things are wrong! To some degree, this can be a good and a bad thing but when you apply that stick to the book type of mentality to all aspects of life, you become stagnant in your growth.
First and foremost, I truly love my family and friends with every ounce in me, however, I have reached a place in life where I will not allow anyone to bring negative energy, discouragement or finding every reason to speak negativity into those around, near me. When you truly love people, you will speak words of encouragement, uplift, support but also provide ‘tough love’ and constructive criticism, when it is needed! I am a firm believer that your circle shouldn’t be filled with ‘yes men’ but those who are going to aid in your growth. When I am out-of-pocket, I need for someone to hold me accountable for my actions, words, and thoughts, in addition being honest with me. Truly I am making sure that my circle of friends and loved ones align with my goals and vision for my life. Not everyone can come with you on your journey in life and I understand that, however, the timeframe in which you’re in my life, will be a pleasant experience!
Secondly, seeking new hobbies that stimulate my mind and identifying new or hidden talents. This was my top priority of 2018! I began taking some courses at my alma mater that will really propel my career. Let me just reinstate that I took the courses and completed them within six months. In addition, I also took myself seriously as a blogger! Blogging about serious issues—African Americans and the broken justice system. I also began dabbling in podcasting, photography and bike riding. Currently, I am still perfecting my craft as far as the whole blogging and podcasting thing goes but I am loving every minute of this new found craft. I am also in the process of beginning a book club for those who love to read literature created by black authors. I am so excited to share this with the world!! PLUG *If you are in the Columbus, GA/ tri-city area please contact thembrowngirls2018@gmail.com for further information regarding the book club called Black Reads*. Although my hobbies and talents may seem like something anyone could have started, it was definitely a stepping stone for me.
If you’re an avid TV watcher then you will know exactly what I mean when I say I use to be like Julius from Everybody Hates Chris or Mr. Krabs from Spongebob SquarePants when it came to my money. However, things have changed drastically, and I must admit I really like it. I have fallen in love with the idea of taking spontaneous trips, attending my favorite artist’s concert or buying whatever I want to buy at even given moment. This past year alone, I’ve attended a concert or some type of event, at least one weekend out of the month. During the summer alone, I’ve taken trips to St. Augustine, FL, Dallas, TX and Las Vegas, NV. Each trip, I’ve learned so much about myself and grew more, in terms, of being the person who God has designed me to be. One of the most important lessons that my father has taught me, is that you only live once if you live it right, you leave no room for regrets. My mentor taught me that you should always spend money on experiences because you’re learning lessons and making memories, rather than spending money on clothes and other silly items because they don’t last long! The year 2018 does not owe me anything, especially summer 2018!
Lastly, this past year has taught me to forgive and give love freely! No matter how anyone has treated me or what life has thrown my way, I should never allow any of that to taint my being or my heart. Despite the countless attempts of failed relationships either romantically or friendship wise, it has almost always led to disappointments. Well, not disappointments but a lesson and that’s okay because I’ve gained great things out of it all. It is hard when someone who you thought would be in your life forever or someone who you’ve done a great deal for leaves your life abruptly BUT in the end, God no longer has a need for them along with your journey. Just know their absence in your life has nothing to do with you but everything to do with them. I am so grateful that certain situations or relationships with certain people did not turn out to be what I desired for them to be, if it did, I wouldn’t be in the position I am in today. No resentment, no hatred, no bad blood but a lot of well wishes and prayers! Never allow a situation or a bad relationship to change your heart, continue to love, live and forgive freely.
Although 2018 was a year of me living my best life, in addition, it humbled me and allowed me to grow in the same breath. I would never want to trade any of my experiences and lessons for anything else in this world. I would not be the person I am today if it never happened to me this year.

The Importance of the African American Vote

With elections being held tomorrow, are we ready to vote? For the past couple of months, I have had the privilege to witness Stacey Abrams, campaign to be the next governor of Georgia, img_4945who looks like me— a strong, educated, melanin woman. Although I am not a resident of the Peach State, I am excited to see what is to come. November 6th is literally tomorrow and my question to you, are you ready to rock the vote? To be able to vote as an American is such a privilege but to be able to vote as an African American is something extraordinary. Just the other night, I had a wonderful conversation with a few young professionals and of course, the topic of politics was introduced to our conversation. Truly, it is astonishing to be around individuals who share the same beliefs and opinions as yourself, in addition, having someone who challenges others to think outside of the general norm. From that conversation, I was left pondering on number of ideas— What is the importance of the African American vote? Why is this election so imperative at this present time? What does this mean for African Americans? How many will rock the vote?
Again, we have the privilege to take action in America during a time in which truly needs it the most. During this year, our country has definitely had trials and tribulations, in addition, our African American community continues to be perceived as a threat to American society. There is a laundry list of concerns that need to be addressed as soon as possible, however, the only step that we can take at this very moment is activating our right to vote. As African Americans, we need to understand that we hold so much power but when we unite, we are a force to be reckoned with. When we look back on how far we have come, we understand things such as the 15th Amendment. The 15th Amendment, which was adopted into the United States Constitution in 1870 allows African American men the right to vote. In the late 1870s, discriminatory practices were used to prevent African Americans from exercising their right to vote. In later years to come, the 19th Amendment was introduced and this amendment granted women the right to vote.
Before the Civil War began, African Americans had only been able to vote in a few northern states, and there were no African American officeholders. Shortly after the Union victory, there was an extensive mobilization within the African American community, with meetings, parades, and petitions calling for legal and political rights. Within the first two years of the Reconstruction Era, black organized Equal Rights Leagues throughout the South and held state and local conventions to protest discriminatory treatment and demand suffrage, as well as equality before the law.
We also understand other things such as the Voting Rights Act of 1965 known as one of the most far-reaching pieces of civil rights legislation in United States history. This particular act was passed in response to Jim Crow laws and various restrictions of minorities’ voting rights. Civil Rights activists worked diligently for years to obtain voting rights for all Americans but due to the national attention from the murder of activists in Mississippi and Philadelphia, acts of violence and terrorism, these events propelled the movement forward. This act bannedRock-the-Vote-Shows-Results-2 the use of literacy tests, provided for federal oversight of voter registration in areas where less than 50 percent of the non-white population had not registered to vote, and authorized the U. S. attorney general to investigate the use of poll taxes in state and local elections. Well after the passage of the Voting Rights Act, state and local law enforcement were weak and it often was ignored outright, mainly in the South and in areas where the proportion of blacks in the population were high and their vote threatened the political status quo. The Voting Rights Act has definitely evolved but is the foundation for protecting our right to vote. This act has allowed African Americans voters the legal means to challenge voting restrictions and vastly improved voter turnout. Make sure that you know your rights when you are at the polls! (If you experience any issues, please contact your local civil rights attorney.)
With a brief glimpse of our history, let us all be reminded of how things used to be in order to get to where we need to be. How amazing is it that we are able to reap the benefits of our ancestors working diligently because they believed in equality amongst all individuals. Again, due to their hard work and determination, we are able to make sure our voice is heard. So it is not enough that we only talk about how great the next governor will be if we do not take action and get to the polls. It does not do any good if we only speak of voting amongst our co-workers, family, and friends. We must take a stance and go to the polls!


What does consistency mean to you? To many of us, we define our own definitions of what certain phrases or words mean by simply what we see or have viewed by either ourselves or others. While having conversations with other like-minded individuals, I was able to gather a variety of definitions for the term consistency: “Doing what you said you were going to do when you said you were going to do it”; “Reliability and/or repeatedly doing it”; “Displaying reliability on a continuous basis”; and lastly, “Continuous”. Each definition provided the term reliability and/or regularly in it. Being consistent is stability, reliability, dependability, orderliness, evenness, steadiness or regularity. Are you consistent with circumstances in your life?
As any human, we all have some point articulated goals, whether long term or short term goals, in our work life in order to ultimately achieve oimg_3705ur dream career. In high school, we were taught to further our education so we would be able to achieve the career of our jobs. For most of us, we were fully unaware of what that career would entail, let alone, we had no idea of which college we would go to. However, along the way, we were afforded examples of careers by mentors, family members, friends or significant individuals in our lives. Along with our journey, we remained in a constant state of learning and hungry to see what the next step in life would look like. By networking, volunteering, and high school/college jobs we were able to hone in on what we would see ourselves doing in our adult life. Being constant in our endeavors on bettering our lives for personal gain, financial gain and/or life’s desire is the overall goal of being consistent in our work lives.
Having the opportunity to obtain a career in the field that you strongly enjoy and brings fulfillment to your heart, is something that not everyone can say. However, for those who can closely relate, how do you maintain your happiness while having constant disputes with other avenues in life? By maintaining a healthy mental state, focusing primarily on your job duties, having a positive attitude and emphasizing the importance of what you as a person can provide to the company, as an asset and not a liability. Always provide positive features to group settings and companies in which they are unable to find anywhere else. The positivity that you exude cannot be located in anyone else, the work ethic, the energy, and the dedication cannot be duplicated. Apply what you know, seek ways to come bigger and better than your current position to amplify you to the next level. Consistency is key!
We are all well aware that it is very important to keep work life and personal life separate. While in college, I was told by various individuals, who knew me so well, ‘Never be so busy work your work life that you forget to have a personal life.’ To this day, I have to remember just that. In order to remain important relationship in life, I must dedicate time and energy to them. In order to stay fit, I must be steady in the gym, in order to see the world, I must take time off and travel and lastly, in order to have a peace of mind, I must disconnect from the world and focus on my mental health. Your personal life should be just that, yours! Live the way that YOU want to live, never seek out validation from anyone on how your life should be. We all have an ideal and/or goal of how we ultimately want our lives to be. Be consistent in ways that will catapult you to that next level in life. Inspiration comes from various shapes and forms in life. However, we must forth put in the time, dedication but most importantly hard work to see our goals and/dreams come to past. Nothing in life just comes to you without consistency and persistence. If you want to want to see a change in anything that you do in life, consistency must be in the equation!

Redefining the Black Woman

img_2798To be a strong black woman you are the most underrated woman in America! Not to discredit any other race of women in the world but given our history, black women are constructed from a very different cloth. Black women have been taught through generations after generations how to maintain their own trials and tribulations, how to take care of themselves as well as others, how to do all of those things and make it look easy.
After listening to countless podcasts and having countless conversations with fellow black women, this very question came to my mind, why are black women taught to be so strong? Being strong for so many years, enduring pain, heartache and still having to take care of everyone around you, are still factors. Yet we as black women are still having a flawless public façade to mask private despair.
During one of the podcasts that I listen to faithfully, this flawless public façade in which black women manage to wear so well is called the black superwoman complex. It is, in fact, the idea that we are invincible and indestructible. There is real pride attached to this complex. Many black women truly believe that being a black superwoman you represent other strong women, suppress emotion, you cannot be dependent on any other individuals, a deep motivation to succeed and put others before yourself! Black women, I am here to tell you that this particular thinking will cause a lot of unnecessary stress.
For many black women, we are constantly depressed, constantly seeking validation from others, constantly having to “settle for less” because people, jobs/careers, or life simply doesn’t align with our standards. We have been told for so long that our standards are too high. Let’s take a stance today and reverse the curse. No longer will we have to hide behind what others have spoken over our lives. We can be strong women, we can have our dream careers, we can have that house, we can own our dream car, vacation periodically, yes ladies, and we can have it all. It’s all about our relationship with God, balance in life, our drive but most importantly our mental health.
God and God alone have made it His business to get you to where you are in life at this point. It’s His Grace and Mercy that has kept so many of us. Seek His face, read His word and give Him all of the praise! I cannot stress enough the importance of mental health. There are plenty of individuals who perceive talking with a counselor or a therapist is “something that white people do”. That’s not true! Seek a therapist/counselor who can help you resolve those unresolved issues in your life and to help you to effectively maneuver through life.
Let’s make it a mission to redefine the definition of what a strong black woman is! It’s imperative for other women of color to know that it is okay to be strong but still seek help when needed. To all my fellow strong black women—may we know them, may we be them!


Sistas & Sunshine

img_3107As people in this world, there is nothing better than we enjoy than to be around those individuals who make us feel good while participating in activities we enjoy in life. Rather if it is just brunch, dinner, day trip or even an entire weekend, we all crave for the time in which we can cater to our personal lives especially our mental health. It is a necessity to take time off from your busy life to refocus on important relationships and to remember the importance of life. Although I am very aware of who I am as a person and privy to my purpose, it is still essential that I focus on myself!
This weekend has definitely been one for the books! What more can a woman ask for? Being surrounded by her two best friends, the beach, the sunshine and good vibes! img_3023
Summer 2018 has already kicked off to the perfect start by traveling to St. Augustine, FL for a girl’s beach trip. For those who know me, are aware of my valued childhood friends that I will forever hold close to my heart. These two pure souls have been a part of my life since my sixth and seventh-grade year of middle school. We have grown into beautiful women who have incredible stories to tell. I am so proud of us! Well, these women and I all decided that we wanted to experience some warm weather with no particular itinerary, just to enjoy each other’s company. If you know me, you know I set very high expectations for ANYTHING and EVERYTHING in life BUT this time was much different!
June 1, 2018, we set out to St. Augustine, FL with good tunes blasting through the car speakers as well as catching up with each other’s personal lives. Once we got to St. Augustine, we took to the beach with just a few hours to spare before the thunderstorm made its appearance. Once checking into the hotel, we got dressed and headed out for a night of dinner and drinks. The following day entailed a light brunch, car tunes while traveling to Daytona, FL for yet another beach trip. After the beach, we headed back to the hotel to change for another evening of good fun and the best drinks. This night took place in Jacksonville! On the very last day of the trip, I was unable to manage to get up that early for the Stand Up Paddle-boarding yoga class, however, I heard it was a great experience. Right before getting on the road back to Columbus, GA we went to Metro Dinner for a great brunch! The next five hours of the trip entailed singing our lungs out to 90s R&B, stopping at the nearest gas stations for snacks and visiting sunflower fields. The best adventures come from the unexpected places!
img_3502Like any other experience, I was able to receive God’s message loud and clear. During this weekend, God’s message emphasized the importance of living in the moment. Recently, this is one lesson that I have slowly learned to do especially at my young age. Live your life to the fullest, live in the moment and not set expectations! Being with my best friends, in an unfamiliar place and not being confined to a particular agenda was what it was truly all about. The three of us are all in different stages in life, we have so much going on but to know that we can dedicate a particular amount of time for each other is amazing. To listen to my friend’s tell me about their careers, their families, their love lives, their experiences, trials, and tribulations always leave me in astonishment. Nevertheless, to have not one but two individuals listen to me vent about life and what all I endure is the best ever. All about genuine support and love from other women is detrimental to the lively hoods of womanhood. It helps to keep me humble, perceive my life from a totally different perspective and allow me to refocus on what is truly important in life.
Secondly, God provided another much-needed lesson which was “confidence”! In order to prevail in life, you must have confidence. Allow me to say it one more time for the people in the back, c-o-n-f-i-d-e-n-c-e. I have been in the gym, not consistently, but I have been in the gym. I don’t have the best body, however, at this point, I am ‘comfortable’. Being on the beach in my swimsuit was very liberating I must say. Social media has certainly tainted everyone’s mind about how you should look. I have fully come to terms that, this is my body, this is my life and I love myself! There I was standing proudly on the beach in my swimsuit taking pictures of God’s most precious work. I am not just talking about in the context in of body image but also in the realm of life, you must have confidence. Whether if it is advancing in your career, love life, becoming more vocal about what you want in relationships or just becoming fearless. Confidence is key!
Continuously I thank God for my tribe—family, and friends, who have molded me to be the young woman I am. Truly, their love for me and their continuous support has only aided in the strength, passion, and purpose I have for life. However, it is very essential that I learn to take a break from real life to unplug and focus on just that, myself and my tribe. In order to be a blessing in life, I must first take care of myself. So thankful for my sistas and sunshine.